This is so true, Taylor. I didn't think I was a bully at all, honestly. I made excuses for myself even when my friend John called me out. It's disgusting but so true. I was also very backhanded. It is extremely difficult to pin down a bully who isn't upfront. A smart, calculating bully will do just as you said and be veiled. That's why Megan was so effective when she just bluntly called me out. The "I was just joking one" fills me with rage it's very triggering because I KNOW what's behind it. Nowadays I still get bullied but I can laugh and that's because I know how sad they are. You're a smart woman, Taylor!