Not at all! I'm so glad you mentioned it these are things I don't think about but I love the conversation because they're important. It's funny that you say you don't like when even black people say it because those are the people who'd get kicked off the table for doing it. My boss would not tolerate it black, white, whoever. I think the hard "er" shocked me so much because he felt he COULD say it to me, you know? It definitely is a disrespect and revolting. I was so angry. And actually it's funny again how you talk about how couples think it's okay because I had a real problem with it and I was going to write a story. My husband used to say it was ok for me to laugh at jokes that were really racist because it was just with him but I couldn't.