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I Knew Our Marriage Was Over When I Started to Hate His Snoring
When the little things you used to love suddenly aren’t so cute, it’s time to reflect.
My ex-husband (who really is the sweetest) and I still aren’t divorced. The paperwork has either bounced back or we just up and didn’t want to deal with it all.
It’s getting handled and not what the story is about, but it created the question that would unravel so many thoughts about marriage that I hadn’t really considered before.
And that could also help you, somehow, since it didn’t help me then.
I’m not sure how the conversation got started. My best friend listened to me tell him in passing how I was emailing back and forth with my ex-husband about the paperwork and I said, “you know what’s funny about marriage. I only realized it was over when I noticed how much I hated his snoring.”
“But I thought you loved his snoring?” My best friend, Michael, who lives with me and also had been on the phone with me every night of my marriage and was Mister-of-Honor at our wedding, said.
He knew more than anyone how much I had loved his snoring in the past. This all changed, though. Which is what I told Michael.
